Most of my time is spent as a practicing Psychologist and also teaching. But I love to do lots of things rather than the same routine. After lots of different experiences, I felt the need to share them with others and felt the best way to do it was through a book. Initially, I co-authored “Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, and Make It Last” to help couples rejuvenate their stale relationships. I tend to write about what I have experienced. I also write for various websites regarding relationships, which is one of my specialties.
1. Tell us about your latest book.
My latest book, “Mindfulness and The Art of Choice: Transform Your Life” is a self-help book that enables the reader to get past their past. It’s the result of a personal journey that was quite devastating from which I recovered with a lot of lessons on how to live a life of choice, a life of joy rather than being a prisoner to your past. After going through such an experience, I felt compelled to share with others what I had learned so that they, too, could live a better life.
2. How did you get started as a writer?
As I said, after going through my own experiences I guess I was a bit egotistical in thinking others could benefit from what I had learned!
3. What does a typical day look like for you?
Each day varies – which I love. But generally, it’s a mix between seeing clients, teaching, writing, and Fridays is left for watching my grandson. That’s really the best day of the week.
4. Describe your desk/workspace.
Organized clutter. I can find anything as long as I don’t get frustrated going through the piles.
5. Favorite books (especially for writers).
Just about anything Deepak Chopra has written and I have fun with James Patterson’s Alex Cross series when on vacation.
6. Tell us 3 interesting/crazy things about you.
– As a psychologist, I’m a bit unusual in that I’m willing to share personal information if I think it will benefit the client.
– My next book is about in-laws. Yep – you got it, another experience I’m going through that I think might help others.
– I couldn’t care less if alcohol was never on the face of this planet again; but bagels and ice cream – not that’s a whole different thing!
7. Favorite quote: “I took the road less traveled and that has made all of the difference.” (Robert Frost)
8. Best and worst part of being a writer
Best – People hold you in high regard.
Worst – Marketing the book so you can get your message out.
9. Advice for other writers:
It’s true what is said – writing the book is the easy part; getting it published and marketing it is the real work. You need to be persistent and believe in what you have to offer.
10. Tell us a story about your writing experience.
After self-publishing my first book, I decided to go the more traditional route for the second one. It was a challenge finding an agent to represent me (also part of the process). I still remember the day he signed me on – I felt so validated – someone believed in my work! A year and a half later, though there had been a couple of bites, none of the larger houses wanted to take me on. Supposedly, my title wasn’t sexy enough. My agent and I parted ways – certainly not the same exhilarating feeling as the initial one.
A small independent house, however, showed an interest in publishing my book. I was apprehensive in signing on with them. But I had heard all sorts of stories about how I would still be required to do a large portion of the market with a large publishing house and that if the book didn’t take off in 90 days, it would be problematic.
So I took the risk and signed. I have such a nice relationship with the company and get such personal attention and backing. I’ve never regretted it!
Where can people buy your book?