Lilia Fallgatter, JD, is an author, speaker and publisher (Inspirit Books, LLC.) Her book, “The Most Important Letter You Will Ever Write, How To Tell Loved Ones How You Feel Before It’s Too Late” was written following the loss of a close friend to cancer. In both the book and in a workshop by the same title, Lilia teaches participants how to communicate their feelings in writing. In addition, Lilia speaks, consults and offers workshops on forgiveness, workshop development, writing & publishing, online learning and empowerment of women. She lives in Chandler, AZ with her husband and two children.
1. Tell us about your latest book.
My first book, The Most Important Letter You Will Ever Write, has been out for a while. I was inspired to write it after the loss of a close friend to cancer. Following her death, I wrote a letter expressing how much she had meant to me. Although I felt better, I deeply regretted not having shared my feeling before she died. So I set out on a mission to not let it happen again and to teach others how to avoid the same regret. My current projects are a humor book on pet peeves, another self-help book, a book for women on self-empowerment, and I will also be writing fiction for the first time.
2. How did you get started as a writer?
I have “aspired” to write for as long as I can remember. However, I was not “inspired” to write until I lost a close friend to cancer. Following her death, I wrote my friend a letter. Although writing the letter made me feel better, I deeply regretted not having shared my feelings with my friend before she died. I decided that I would not let that happen again. I wrote “Loving Letters” to loved ones who were still alive. I then made it my mission to help others do the same. I wrote the book and developed the workshop.
3. What does a typical day look like for you?
In addition to working on my various book projects as a publisher and author, I am an online education consultant, speaker, wife and mother. I try to make time each day to move forward with one or more of my writing projects.
4. Describe your desk/workspace.
Although I consider myself a highly organized person, my desk is usually cluttered with books, manuscripts, articles, research materials and the many projects which are works in progress.
5. Favorite books (especially for writers)
Fiction: A Fine Balance, Rohinton Mistry
Non-Fiction: Most any personal growth/self-help book
6. Tell us 3 interesting/crazy things about you
I have a law degree, but chose not to practice law
I am founder and president of Inspirit Books, LLC
One of my biggest pet peeves is mispronounced words
7. Favorite quote
I have two favorite quotes:
“Good words are worth much and cost little.” ~George Herbert
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~Nelson Mandela
8. Best and worst part of being a writer
Best: Doing what I love to do most in the whole world and feeling that I might be helping others to improve their lives or reach their potential.
Worst: Trying to convince others how talented I amJ
9. Advice for other writers
Ideas and writing that arise out of inspiration will be the most meaningful and satisfying work you do.
10. Tell us a story about your writing experience.
Learning that my writing has touched or benefited others has served to confirm that the time invested in writing and publishing my book was worthwhile and serves an important purpose. I have been blessed to have this confirmed on many occasions.
Where can people buy your book?